by Caroline Leach | Jan 28, 2017 | Leadership, Social Media
It started innocently enough.
Someone mentioned me in a tweet about a business-related dispute.
I read the tweeter’s bio. I researched the issue. I realized there was nothing meaningful I could do in response.
Then the tweets came more frequently. Three, four and more times a day.
It became harder to ignore the notifications button on my Twitter app. I started to wonder if my non-response strategy was a good idea. In talking with some colleagues in the social space, we concluded that it was.
Still, it was painful being the subject of increasingly negative tweet after tweet. Generally I believe in responding.
This is especially true if it’s a customer, and it’s gratifying to help people solve issues. However, this particular case did not involve a customer.
The same as the schoolyard bully, the best response is often no response. Act indifferently for long enough, and the hater will eventually go away.
But the escalation of hate concerns me. With all of the positive energy surrounding this month’s Women’s Marches around the globe, I was disappointed by the level of vitriol in my Twitter feed.
It reminded me of Ashley Judd’s talk at the TEDWomen talk last fall. One of her tweets at a basketball game a few years ago incited a cyber mob of hate. Yet rather than responding to the haters themselves, she became an activist for a safe and free internet for everyone.
She had, from time to time, tried engaging people. She met with varying degrees of success. One person in particular had a refreshing response and actually apologized.
That made me think beyond the awful posts and comments themselves. What kind of pain must someone be in to post hateful and threatening material? What has happened to them to make them act that way? What are they most afraid of?
A Facebook friend posted recently that she was leaving the platform for a while. She was tired of the negativity and felt the best solution was to step back.
The outpouring of encouraging comments was heartening, including the advice to ignore the haters and focus on the connections with friends and family.
She still chose to take a break. But I hope she’ll be back.
Because we need positive voices. We need realistic optimism. We need civil dialogue.
And we need empathy. That was my takeaway from a bestselling book called Hillbilly Elegy by J.D. Vance. It’s an up close and personal look at rural America – the challenges, the issues, the highs and the lows.
Everyone is dealing with some kind of challenge, whether it’s visible on the outside or not. So be kind. Be caring. Be curious.
This is a strategy that has worked for Gary Vaynerchuk, CEO of VaynerMedia. Like Ashley Judd, he’s engaged haters with respect for their views. He asks questions to better understand the underlying issue.
That’s where your judgment comes in. Should you ignore or engage? Every situation is different, so what might work in one instance may not work in another.
Try seeing things from another point of view. And see where that takes you.
This is also about exercising control where you can. You can’t control the behavior of others, but you can control yourself. This includes your thoughts, your attitudes and your actions.
This concept of empowerment was beautifully expressed in the Academy Award nominated film Hidden Figures. It tells the story of three brilliant African-American women who worked as mathematicians and scientists at NASA in the early 1960s.
These inspiring and accomplished women continually had to decide whether to ignore the slights and snubs of daily life or to speak out and engage others in their struggles.
And thank goodness they did, time and time again, because they changed the course of history in the Space Race.
I couldn’t be more proud that my employer is offering free screenings of the film to students in major U.S. cities. (This is where I remind readers that opinions in this blog are my own.)
The positive actions that we take individually and collectively have the power to change the world.
What are you doing to make a difference?
by Caroline Leach | Nov 26, 2016 | Change, Leadership, Social Media
“If a company or a person does something great but no one knows about it, does it really matter?”
That’s a question I asked in my very first blog post.
Yes, there are random acts of kindness intended to be done under the radar. Yet, hearing about them can be inspiring when others share the news, like my sister did on Facebook.
While getting coffee in her Connecticut town, she overhead another customer buying a gift card for the police officer outside who was directing traffic. That’s an instant day brightener. And maybe it will inspire others toward similar acts of kindness.
Data and information are collected about us every day, according to The Reputation Economy by Michael Fertik. The question is what we want that data to say about us as a person and as a professional.
Do we want it to open doors or close them? Do we want it to augment the hard work we do every day or detract from it? Do we want it to make our life better or make it harder?
More and more, everything we do has implications for our own personal reputations as well as the companies where we work or that we own. This is both in real life, or IRL, as well as how that becomes represented in social media.
This means we each have great power to do good in the world, to a larger extent than has ever been available to us. And it also means we have the potential make major missteps.
This means each of us needs social savvy.
What’s that?
SOCIAL SAVVY: the vital ability for people to personally brand and market themselves successfully in social media in our ever-evolving world.
This skill is important throughout our lives.
It applies to high school students who are preparing their college applications or moving into the working world.
It applies to college and grad school students who are getting ready to transition into the working world.
And it applies to people throughout their professional lives. For corporate professionals in particular, the stakes for social media are higher.
Social media can help or hurt careers. It can add to or detract from a corporate reputation and an employer brand. It can make acquiring top talent a breeze or a burden.
The risks are high, but so are the rewards. And in our ever-evolving world, no one can afford to sit on the sidelines. The pace of change is too fast for that.
Corporate professionals often ignore or short-change social media. Why? They don’t have the time, they don’t see the value and they don’t want to make a mistake.
Developing social savvy is how professionals can create and implement a social strategy to highlight and share their own thought processes and achievements, along with those of their organizations.
Social savvy is a powerful way for corporate professionals to build their personal brand, advance their career and embrace their future.
What are some examples of social savvy? What does it look like?
- Using social media to build and amplify your personal brand, the unique value that you bring to the world
- Positioning yourself in the most favorable light, for a number of career and life paths
- Positioning your employer or company in the most favorable light
- Advancing your career through a positive social strategy
- Helping others advance their careers
- Helping your company achieve its goals
- Building your employer’s corporate reputation and employer brand
- Knowing what to do and not to do in social media
- Seeing the links between real life and social savvy
- Knowing when and how to engage with critics
How are you demonstrating social savvy?
by Caroline Leach | Oct 30, 2016 | Corporate Communications, Leadership
Start with your key sentence. Your point. Your theory. Your ask.
Whether it’s a talk, a text or an email, lead with what’s most important.
Three things got me thinking about this.
First, how do we grab people’s attention from the start? I heard two days of incredible talks at TEDWomen 2016 this month. The speakers did not start with, “Hi, I’m glad to be here and I’m excited about what I’m going to share with you and I’d like to thank a few people before I get started.”
No, they grabbed us with their opening words. With a bold statement or a question or a story. Here are examples from some of my favorite TED talks.
“So I want to start by offering you a free no-tech life hack, and all it requires of you is this: that you change your posture for two minutes.” So begins Amy Cuddy‘s talk, Your body language shapes who you are.
“What makes a great leader today?” There’s no mistaking what Roselinde Torres will address in her talk, What it takes to be a great leader.
“It’s the fifth time I stand on this shore, the Cuban shore, looking out at that distant horizon, believing, again, that I’m going to make it all the way across that vast, dangerous wilderness of an ocean.” Diana Nyad grabs the audience right at the beginning of her story in Never, ever give up.
Second, how do we help busy people easily respond us? Quite simply, by putting the key information in the opening words of our emails and texts.
Beyond putting your main message in the subject line, use your first 10 to 12 words to make your point.
Many people have email preview screens that show these words. Make the most of that space by getting to the point. Because your recipient may not read anything else.
Third, how do we spot the key idea in any interaction? When a meeting ends, can you summarize the most important point in a single sentence? What’s the headline? The tweet? The snap?
Take a few minutes at the end of a conversation or meeting to identify the one key takeaway. Share it with your colleagues.
Given the complexity of many projects and the extensive collaboration that’s required to meet goals, this helps others see the forest for the trees.
This keeps a team focused on what’s most important. It guides their actions. And it increases the likelihood of success.
How do you keep your lead front and center?
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