Reflecting on Who You Are

“There’s a reason we are drawn

to gazing at the ocean.

It is said the ocean provides

a closer reflection of who

we are than any mirror.”

-Rick Rubin, author of The Creative Act: A Way of Being

What gives YOU a closer reflection of who you are?

 

Easy Ways to Use AI in Daily Work

Microsoft Speaker Coach Report

How can you use AI more often in your daily work? 🤖

I’ve been contemplating how to best use AI in my communication, consulting, and coaching business.

And it feels a bit overwhelming at times.

When that happens, I break things down into simple steps.

What’s the easiest way to start?

For me it’s been using the existing AI features in my business and personal tech stack – all the digital tools I use frequently.

Most everything has AI features, so increasingly I’m using them. Just a few:
1. LinkedIn: rewrite with AI
2. iStockPhoto: AI generator
3. MS Teams: speaker coach

In the last example, I’m now using the Speaker Coach feature of Microsoft Teams in meetings where I’m presenting.

Speaker Coach analyzes your speaking along six dimensions:
1. Filler words
2. Pace
3. Inclusiveness
4. Intonation
5. Monologue
6. Repetitive language

It sends a private report just to you as the user right after the meeting.

A sample report from a client meeting is below.

During the meeting, I got a private notification that I was speaking too fast.

Although it was momentarily jarring, it helped me slow down in the moment.

Filler words are also a challenge for me. Too often I say “like” and “you know” that can detract from my message.

In this client meeting, I used filler words 6 times.

In a bigger presentation later the same day? Only 1 time.

So AI is helping me be a better speaker. And a better communication coach for other leaders.

How is AI helping you do better work? Drop a comment 👇

How Do You Learn to Do Something New?

How do you learn to do something new?

Not by thinking, planning, or strategizing.

Instead, we learn simply by doing the new thing.

We learn by being okay feeling uncomfortable and awkward.

We learn by experimenting and having a beginner’s mindset.

Over the weekend, I was reminded of this.

One of my new endeavors for the year is taking adult ballet classes.

It’s been decades since I studied dance almost daily as a teen.

My mind remembers, but my body needs to re-learn how to do the steps.

Our instructor told the packed classroom at the outset, “the way to learn to dance … is to dance.”

So simple. Yet maybe it’s not the first thought when we start something new.

It could be anything new, whether it’s leading, marketing, designing, or something else.

For those who follow me, you know I’m learning to speak Spanish.

This year I’m also learning more about AI. I’m curious about how to better apply it to my work communicating, coaching, and leading.

One of the cool new LinkedIn tools is “rewrite with AI.” So this post appears in two versions, A and B. What resonates with you in each post and why? Drop a comment and let me know. 👇

This is Version A, written by me.

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This is Version B, rewritten with AI.

How do you learn to do something new? Not by overthinking, but by simply doing. We learn by embracing the discomfort of being a beginner and experimenting with a beginner’s mindset. This weekend, I was reminded of this while taking adult ballet classes. Though it’s been decades since I last danced daily, my instructor reminded us that “the way to learn to dance…is to dance.” It’s a simple concept, yet one we often overlook when starting something new. Whether it’s learning a new language like Spanish or exploring the possibilities of AI, the key is to take action and learn by doing. So what new skill are you looking to tackle this year? Share in the comments below.

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P.S. One of the most fascinating learnings from this “rewrite with AI” experiment? I did it 3 times as I made slight edits to my post, and each time the rewrite was fairly different. Trying to decide what to make of that.

 

 

How Smooth is Your Ride?

a ferris wheel as a metaphor for the wheel of life exercise

How was your 2023? What are your hopes for 2024?

Here’s a fun and easy exercise to consider both. It’s called “The Wheel of Life,” from the the Co-Active Training Institute.

Pick a number between 1 and 10 for your satisfaction in these areas of your life (1 is the lowest and closest to the center of the wheel; 10 is the highest and closest to the outer edge of the wheel):

  1. Career
  2. Family and friends
  3. Significant other
  4. Fun and recreation
  5. Health
  6. Money
  7. Personal growth
  8. Physical environment

Feel free to modify the categories if you like.

Each category is like a wedge or a slice of pie in the wheel.

Plot your numbers around the wheel and then connect the dots.

The purpose? To see how smooth or bumpy your ride of life is.

The bigger the variation in numbers among categories, the bumpier the ride.

You can also use this to reflect on:

  1. What’s going well in your life?
  2. What would you like to improve?
  3. What actions will increase your satisfaction?

The wheel of life is one of the first exercises I learned in coach training at CTI.

It was fun to revisit it today with year-end reflection and year-ahead planning.

What are your reflection and planning rituals? Would love to know in a comment!

 

5 Learnings from Studying Spanish at Midlife

¡Hola! This fall semester I am both a communications professor at UCS and a student taking Spanish at El Camino College. Our last day of Spanish class was this week. I am grateful to our wonderful professor Maria Barrio de Mendoza and my fellow students.

¡Hola! Este semestre de otoño soy profesora de comunicaciones en USC y estudiante de español en El Camino College. Nuestro último día de clase de español fue esta semana. Estoy agradecida a nuestra maravillosa profesora María Barrio de Mendoza y a mis compañeros de estudios.

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So many of you encouraged me at the end of August when I started my Spanish studies.

My daughter got me started on the Duolingo app over the summer.

Learning Spanish was on my to-do list for YEARS.

We think we have plenty of time, but we never really know.

So I enrolled in Spanish 1 this fall to formalize the learning process.

Why?

1. I live in Los Angeles, where there are millions of Spanish speakers

2. Learning a new language is like taking my middle-aged brain to the gym

3. The flow state of studying is a welcome respite from our troubled world

Here’s what I learned, in addition to 2 years of high-school Spanish …

HAVING A BEGINNER’S MINDSET IS BOTH HUMBLING AND NECESSARY. It was hard to speak up in class week after week, not always giving the right answers or pronouncing words correctly. What I came to realize, though, is that’s part of the learning process. Making mistakes is how we learn.

IT’S POSSIBLE TO LEARN ANYTHING NEW AT ANY AGE. Yes, it takes me a lot longer now to memorize Spanish words and verb conjugations than it did when I took French in high school. Keeping at it and pushing through the messy and difficult parts was the breakthrough.

OUR COMMUNITY COLLEGES PROVIDE SO MANY OPPORTUNITIES. Our class was blessed with a dedicated professor in Maria Barrio De Mendoza. She made learning fun. It was inspiring to meet students who are decades younger than me and forging their paths in the world.

LEARNING A SECOND LANGUAGE SHINES A NEW LIGHT ON ENGLISH. As a communicator, I’ve always been fascinated with the English language and the nuances of word meanings. Learning Spanish is making me re-examine English and how I write and speak.

IT IS HEAVENLY TO BE IN THE FLOW STATE OF STUDYING. The world can be a difficult place, and there are many problems that don’t have nice, neat answers. But in studying a language there’s always a right answer. And somehow that makes solving other life problems easier.